Wednesday, September 24, 2008

ROLE REVERSAL

Today, I must admit I am feeling a little tired and definitely a little down and out :( I took my 83 year old Dad to have another surgical procedure yesterday. He did really great and is actually doing quite well for all he has been through. We almost lost him in June, but thankfully God spared his life for a few more good years. I think my Dad has held on because he wants to be here to help take care of my 78 year old Mom, she is under Hospice Care at their home and is very ill.

It really is so true about what you hear about Role Reversal, I am definitely experiencing that right now. It was so easy being their child, but to now be their parent is very hard. It is hard to see them, especially my Mom struggling to breathe and stay alive. I think her will to live is starting to dissipate. She tells me just about everyday that she is tired of fighting and ready to leave. I actually prayed last night to God, that I do not want her to suffer and if he is ready for her than I am ready to give her over to him. You know that is really hard to do, to give up your Mom, but I know that she has fought a very long, but good fight down here on earth since she was 36 years old. She deserves some peace and although I will miss her immensely, I know that she will be going to a place of rest and healing with God.

Now that I have made all of you sad by expressing myself today, I can find some humor though all of this. When we got ready to leave the hospital yesterday, the nurse was going over all the post-op things with my Dad and she told him he could resume sexual activity!!! He said, I don't think we have to worry about that, it's been dead for quite sometime.

3 comments:

Joanna said...

At least he's keeping his sense of humor.

Sorry you're going through that stage with them. There are days I tell God He can have my Mom. I don't think that would fix the problem and she's not sick. sigh

Michelle @ Sew-Krafty said...

I love you, lady! You are such a giver and your ability to "give" your mom to God is amazing! How wonderfully sweet.
Thanks for the good cry...really:)

Connie said...

Sorry to hear about your mom and dad. It's a tough place to be right now with our parents aging. Aren't 80+ year old men funny!! Glad to visit you from 2nd Cup of Coffee. I will be back...love the pics of the grandkids. Connie